We crave honesty in our personal relationships, for obvious reasons. What’s not so obvious? The first step to transparency in our relationships with others is being honest with ourselves. The first step towards being honest with ourselves? Figuring out who our true authentic self really is. We have all read about the value of being […]
Are you in a relationship with someone who hesitates to take responsibility or make commitments? Do you know a grown person who behaves more like a child or teen? “Arrested development” is a term that describes this condition. It arises when a person is “stuck” at an early phase of emotional development. Arrested development is […]
We make decisions every day, from what we’re going to wear to how to approach a complex task at work. Decisions are a normal part of everyday life. However, our brain’s decision-making battery has finite power, and it can deplete rapidly. What does that mean, exactly? Essentially, the more decisions we make, the more likely we […]
We make so many decisions, all day, every day. Our brains call upon us to make choice after choice, often in a snap. To rise or hit the snooze? Shower or exercise? What should we wear? Eat breakfast or skip it? And these are the easy ones. Just think how much better our lives would […]
A people-pleaser wants everyone to be happy. Everyone. All at the same time. Sounds unrealistic, right? To those of us who have this affliction, it’s our natural (almost uncontrollable) tendency (compulsion?) to pursue this unattainable goal. This means we constantly try to figure out everything we can do to maximize the happiness of those around […]
You read that correctly. There’s no denying, having work-life balance can be important to happiness and well-being. But I’ve never liked the term “work-life balance” or the things that phrase implies. It makes it sound like we only live when we are not working. And that work is not an integral part of our existence, […]
We often spend our precious time and energy wondering what other people think. This post discusses why it truly doesn't matter, and how to effectively curb this habit.
People who suffer from Imposter Syndrome doubt their own accomplishments. They live in fear of being discovered as a fake or a fraud. It doesn't matter how much proof exists of their skill or talents. People who suffer from Imposter Syndrome believe their achievements are a result of good fortune or a mistake. Many successful executives, as well as celebrities and performers experience these feelings.
Picture this: you have a life coach on call 24/7. She is there before you send a text or make a call. She anticipates your every need and is as invested in your personal success as you are. Sounds amazing, right? It’s within reach for all of us. Because when we learn how to care […]
Many strategies to boost happiness encourage us to “let go”. The message is often that we should let go of negative emotions like anger, resentment, pain and hurt. But letting go of any feeling is challenging for most of us. We often have a particularly hard time when we try to let go of the […]
According to Wikipedia, gossip is “idle talk or rumor, especially about the personal or private affairs of others; the act is also known as dishing or tattling”. Put another way, we gossip when we talk about someone else. Someone else who is usually not present. Or when we share other people’s secrets. One definition I […]
Your read that correctly. I propose we stomp out preaching the Golden Rule, once and for all. We all know it: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”. Well, from my perspective (and I reckon for many other people), that’s definitely not a road to happiness. If the people around me […]
Understanding and articulating what we believe we are born to do – our unique life purpose – is one of the most powerful ways to focus our finite personal development energy in the right places. It’s also one of the most effective ways to begin to visualize and become our best selves. And when we […]
A journey of self-discovery can be life long, and for many, life altering. It’s exciting to think that we all still have much to learn about the person we should actually know the very best – ourselves! Back in the 20th century, we referred to this kind of soul searching as “finding ourselves”. But for […]
Do you have a vision of the life you want to lead in the future? A real, crystal-clear picture? How often do you think about it? Embellish it? Fine-tune it? Do your dreams include vivid examples of what your life will be like after you achieve them? When you’re actually living that future vision, living […]
Many of us yearn to have more will power and admire people who seem to have an endless supply. Want to know some of their secrets? Read on.
We will each have a legacy. Something we leave behind after we are gone. Life is short, and we never know how much time we have left to impact the legacy that we will leave. We all know this. But the older we get, the more we begin to understand just how fleeting life can […]
We are all prone to be limited by blind spots in our thinking. We experience our routine, over and over. We’re presented with similar decisions, conversations, interactions. The way we think becomes a habit. Our ability to innovate, “think out of the box”, and pose new solutions to persistent problems becomes severely impaired. It’s a […]
It’s challenging to meet all our daily challenges and unexpected emergencies, let alone devote energy and time to achieving our long-term goals. We seem to run out of day before completing anything non-essential. We push less urgent things to tomorrow, next week, next month. Sometimes we get to them, but rarely do we give them […]
Not many years ago, the pace of change was somewhat fairly modest. We usually had time to acclimate to new ways of thinking and new ways to do things. But those days are gone. Something can now be invented, trend on Twitter and sweep the globe in minutes. Improvements to technology and apps, and even […]
Happiness and learning are inextricably linked. In fact, learning something new and different as often as possible has been proven to enable a positive attitude and happiness. This finding continues to show up in new studies, and it seems to be universally accepted by happiness experts. Read on to understand more reasons why it’s important […]
We tend to form first impressions quickly. It’s amazing how many conclusions we can draw with little or no evidence. No one is safe from our judgment, it seems. It can be a waitress who serves us at a restaurant. Or a guy who cuts us off in traffic. Maybe it’s a professor we have […]
Things haven’t been going the way you wanted them to. You don’t have the job you want, you’re in debt, and your personal life is a mess. It feels like you’re stuck in a rut, and you don’t see a way out. But it’s not too late to turn your life around. Let’s take a […]
It’s been a while since we’ve had a straight up, “Don’t forget you are amazing!” post, strictly intended to motivate. I think of posts like that as morning motivation because I sometimes need one of these to start the day off right. So, strap yourself in, because here it comes! Morning Motivation Your Resting Mind-Set […]
Welcome to How to Find Happiness in 10 Weeks or Less, Week 4: What Is My Purpose? Answers to the Most Important Question Ever. Discovering what we were born to do is highly motivating and a key to improving our well-being. When we discover our life purpose, everything we do has more meaning, and even […]
We convince ourselves that we’re not capable, don’t deserve to be rewarded for our good work, or that we’re inadequate in some other way. We tell ourselves that we are bad people, poor parents, inadequate friends. That we’re not truly successful at anything. We’re hard on ourselves when we make mistakes, diminish the credit we […]
When we feel emotional pain or struggle to maintain our mental health, we are often quick to assume that part of the issue lies with low self-esteem. The truth is low self-esteem has been given more airtime than it deserves over the years. What has not been given ample attention is what we are often […]
Finding our purpose in life is powerful. Knowing what we are “born to do” can make all the difference. Once we do, if we define something significant, measurable and tangible as our touchstone, this can provide a strong foundation on which to base virtually each decision and every choice we make. For example, when we […]
Many of us share a strange combination of feelings right now. These feelings have ebbed and flowed for many of us for much of the last two years. We’re nearly obsessed with hearing the latest news, desperate to learn some new ‘known’ in the vast sea of uncertainty that surrounds us. At the same time, […]
