Learned Helplessness Hack: How to Avoid Blind Spots

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We are all prone to be limited by blind spots in our thinking. We experience our routine, over and over. We’re presented with similar decisions, conversations, interactions. The way we think becomes a habit. Our ability to innovate, “think out of the box”, and pose new solutions to persistent problems becomes severely impaired. It’s a form of learned helplessness and it’s human nature – one of our great weak spots.

How to Understand Blind Spots and Avoid Learned Helplessness

When elephants are small, they are tied to a post with a strong rope to keep them from running away.

When they’re grown, a thin cord is all it takes to keep them from fleeing.

They’ve learned they can’t get far.

This illustrates the impact of what’s called habitual thinking.

When we are limited by our own habitual thinking, like the elephants, we are said to have scatomas – or blind spots.

What Causes Learned Helplessness and Blind Spots?

Blind spots happen when our life becomes too mundane.  As we often call it, “the same old grind”.

If we experience the same things and interact with the same people, we’re likely to think the same thoughts.

We may become blind to other scenarios and other ways of thinking.

This stagnation makes it hard to imagine new possibilities, challenge the status quo, or solve problems.

We cease to innovate and improve.

The lack of stimulation also contributes to aging and depression and may also impact our feelings of self-worth.

How Can We Avoid Learned Helplessness?

If we don’t have the time, freedom or money to wander and seek out exotic new things, how can we avoid these deadly blind spots? How can we inject novelty that will help ensure we’re seeing all of life’s possibilities?

Experts recommend we do something new or different every single day.  Doing new things helps keep our brains healthy as it stimulates new “synapses to snap”.

This is one reason why vacations often feel rejuvenating.  But we can’t always take a vacation!

So here are 10 (no or low cost) suggestions of other ways to keep our thoughts fresh and avoid learned helplessness:

  1. Turn down a road you have never driven down before.
  2. Do an everyday task with your non-dominant hand.
  3. Talk to a stranger in a shopping line.
  4. Go to a bookstore (or browse online if you must!). Pick a book about an unfamiliar subject and read one page.  Or choose a book by an author you’ve never read before.
  5. Eat breakfast for dinner and vice versa.
  6. Try a new restaurant or recipe or food you’ve never eaten.
  7. Subscribe to a newsfeed or podcast or Ted Talk on a subject you know nothing about.  Listen to a different radio station or playlist.
  8. Cut or color (or stop coloring) your hair; or try a new shade of lipstick or nail polish.
  9. Try on clothes or shoes you wouldn’t normally pick out for yourself.
  10. If you can manage it – plan a weekend or day trip to somewhere you have never been or take a class in a subject you know nothing about.

Why It’s Important to Mix Things Up

It’s essential to mix things up to keep the new experiences novel to you. Maybe try a new playlist one day, walk a new route another day, try a recipe, do a puzzle, part your hair on the left instead of the right, you get the idea!

Even doing something minor that differs from routine can have long lasting benefits, because it begins to build the basis of a habit.

And establishing the habit of doing new things enables our brains to more readily see opportunities and choices we may not have seen before.

Other Benefits of Trying New Things

Doing new things helps us to “think outside the box”. This ability is essential to good problem solving and to help our brains open up to innovation. As we become more creative thinkers, we also become more resilient when challenges and difficult times arise.

So, let’s promise ourselves that we’ll do something new, even if it’s something small, every day.  It will help us to be our best selves and we deserve to be at our best. Those around us will benefit, too!

Please comment! Let us all know your suggestions for ways to avoid those deadly blind spots and the sad state of learned helplessness.

And as always – remember – we are all worthy, and so much more than enough.

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6 Responses

  1. very well explain.this will definitely help us to improve our personal development. you have made my day. I will definitely implement it in my life. thank you so much for this.

  2. What an excellent read, as I have been working on ways to shift my mindset on creating a better way to live with the past year taking it’s toll on me physically & emotionally. April 3rd of last year I had a serious injury, resulting in two severe right wrist fractures (my dominant hand), which resulted in major wrist surgery last July. I work on more acceptance of my disability now, knowing I CAN live this life with purpose & meaning…This brings me to the creative part of me I enjoy discovering, which you clearly display with your suggestions. I have been writing & journeling for 50 years & I learned to write left-handed (one example of thinking outside the box regardless of a disability). Each day I try my best to change one thing to stay out of a stagnant state & keep that door unlocked to having an open mind. Stepping away from the day to day attitude of “oh just another day?” to having a more meaningful outlook on life has been quite challenging at times, but definitely worth pushing through as I continue on this new journey. Old habits are just that…old.

    • Kindness, Compassion and Coaching says:

      Cheryl, thank you so much for reading, and especially for sharing your comment. How you have turned your severe injury into opportunity is so inspiring. What a fantastic attitude! I think I will adopt your approach going forward – try to change one thing a day, just to keep myself fresh. I hope your recovery continues to bring new experiences and that you are surrounded by people who appreciate your courage and positivity!

  3. Lori says:

    Particularly this past year, it’s been so easy to get into a rut and thus develop plenty of blind spots! You’ve presented some really, really simple ways to break free! And by implementing these small changes, it gives us room to grow and try even bigger changes! Great post, thanks!

    • Kindness, Compassion and Coaching says:

      Hi Lori, thank you for reading and for sharing your thoughts. I always appreciate your support and kind words!

  4. Alex says:

    5 is really original, never thought about eating breakfast for dinner. Maybe I should try it out!

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