The concept of being “low maintenance” is often celebrated, as a symbol of resilience and ease. But priding oneself on being low maintenance can inadvertently perpetuate harmful stereotypes. It also undermines the value of vulnerability and authentic expression. And fosters a culture of emotional suppression and neglect. Today, we challenge the conventional wisdom surrounding the […]
Science has proven that the species most adaptable to change is the one most likely to survive. Being adaptable is also a precious skill for us as people. Because how likely we are to thrive is often directly related to how well we handle the changes that life brings our way. Not what those changes […]
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me.” Are you old enough to remember hearing this chant as a child? Oh, how wrong we were. The power of words is intense. And verbal abuse is so common, we may even not realize when it is happening to us, or someone […]
We all experience negative emotions from time to time. For example, when working toward a goal, it’s easy to become frustrated if our progress is not as steady or fast as we would like it to be. After all, in today’s world, instant gratification has become an expectation. So much happens with just 1 tap on […]
Loneliness has little to do with how much time we spend alone. And it can’t be eradicated by just spending time with others. In fact, we can be among a crowd of family and friends and feel lonelier than when we are alone. Loneliness may present as almost a craving, a need for companionship, intimacy, […]
Do you remember the book and movie “Love Story”? It was popular back in the 1970s, and the tagline was “Love means never having to say you’re sorry…” Although many people loved that movie, I hope few embraced that sentiment, because nothing could be further from the truth. It’s important for us to give each […]
Some days, our thoughts seem to have a mind of their own, so to speak. We can know in our hearts and brains that positive thinking is better for us. In fact, we can train our thoughts to improve our happiness. Yet often, our minds wander to the worst possible outcome, explanation, or assumption. We […]
Have you ever experienced a deep-seated fear of trusting others or forming intimate connections, even when you desire meaningful relationships? You may be grappling with a lesser known, yet impactful phenomenon called Pistanthrophobia. This complex term encapsulates the fear of trusting people due to past betrayals, heartbreak, or vulnerability. Today, we are covering the subject […]
In an earlier post, we wrote about how essential transparency is to relationships. In that piece, we talked about being honest with ourselves as the first step to having more open and honest relationships. This post focuses on another aspect of transparency. Specifically, how privacy and secrecy are connected and how they both are key […]
We make so many decisions, all day, every day. Our brains call upon us to make choice after choice, often in a snap. To rise or hit the snooze? Shower or exercise. What should we wear? Eat breakfast or skip it? And these are the easy ones. Just think how much better our lives would […]
