Whether we feel it when a relationship fails, when we bungle a job interview, or even when we feel we’ve been snubbed socially, the experience of rejection is never easy. Sometimes, it can be quite difficult to bear and even humiliating. As a result, it’s not surprising that fear of rejection is very common, and […]
There are many times in life when we want or need something from others. Perhaps it’s a favor or getting someone else to consider compromise. Other times, it can be something more significant – a negotiation on a home sale, or an important job promotion. In these cases, and many more, knowing how to negotiate […]
The concept of being “low maintenance” is often celebrated, as a symbol of resilience and ease. But priding oneself on being low maintenance can inadvertently perpetuate harmful stereotypes. It also undermines the value of vulnerability and authentic expression. And fosters a culture of emotional suppression and neglect. Today, we challenge the conventional wisdom surrounding the […]
In an earlier post, we wrote about how essential transparency is to relationships. In that piece, we talked about being honest with ourselves as the first step to having more open and honest relationships. This post focuses on another aspect of transparency. Specifically, how privacy and secrecy are connected and how they both are key […]
We make so many decisions, all day, every day. Our brains call upon us to make choice after choice, often in a snap. To rise or hit the snooze? Shower or exercise. What should we wear? Eat breakfast or skip it? And these are the easy ones. Just think how much better our lives would […]
We are all prone to be limited by blind spots in our thinking. We experience our routine, over and over. We’re presented with similar decisions, conversations, interactions. The way we think becomes a habit. Our ability to innovate, “think out of the box”, and pose new solutions to persistent problems becomes severely impaired. It’s a […]
We convince ourselves that we’re not capable, don’t deserve to be rewarded for our good work, or that we’re inadequate in some other way. We tell ourselves that we are bad people, poor parents, inadequate friends. That we’re not truly successful at anything. We’re hard on ourselves when we make mistakes, diminish the credit we […]
