Intimacy is a deeply profound and often misunderstood aspect of human connection. It goes beyond the physical, encompassing emotional, psychological, and spiritual elements that form the foundation of healthy relationships. Though other thoughts often come to mind when we hear the word ‘intimacy’ what an intimate relationship is really all about being comfortable enough to be vulnerable and authentic with another person. To share our true selves without restraint.
Today, we explore what intimacy truly entails, why it is indispensable to the vitality of relationships, and how its authentic presence can enrich our lives in ways we may have never imagined.
Get ready to redefine your understanding of intimacy and discover its power to foster fulfilling and resilient connections.
Why Intimacy Is Important
Are you open to intimacy? When asked how we’re doing, our answer is usually “Fine.” Synonyms for fine include excellent, first-rate, exceptional, magnificent, splendid, outstanding, prime and superb. When was the last time you actually felt “splendid”? (Wouldn’t it be amazing if that was our go-to state of being?)
Granted, the greeting of “How are you?” has become the equivalent of “Hello”, and so we often reply without much elaboration. But the truth is, when opportunities for a deeper conversation present, we seldom take advantage of them. In fact, most of us don’t have many people who we feel comfortable having an open, honest conversation with. Sadly, we keep powerful thoughts, feelings, and emotions locked up inside – for a narrow-minded audience of one.
Why Does Intimacy Matter?
Among other things, lack of intimate, honest relationships fuels the fire of exaggerated comparisons to others. Since we rarely allow ourselves to share fears, troubles, short-comings, and disappointments, it’s easy to believe that those around us are, truly, doing “fine”.
This is unfortunate.
And today’s social media frenzy can make it appear that we’re the only ones with uneventful lives. The two combined can create misconceptions about the quality of life everyone else is experiencing. The skewed impression we get from other people’s “life highlight reel” is that they are all successful, having a great time, and looking better than ever.
But the truth is, most of us are struggling, in one way or another. Allowing ourselves to be vulnerable, and having more intimate, open conversations could shine a light on other’s true circumstances. It could also help us avoid the pitfalls of uninformed comparisons. These pitfalls can make us feel poorly and feed our tendency to judge others too harshly.
In short, allowing ourselves to be vulnerable and transparent helps us to become more compassionate and kinder, both to others and to ourselves. But allowing ourselves to be vulnerable is challenging and takes courage.
Ask Yourself This Question
When was the last time you were truly open and authentic in a conversation? Next time you have the opportunity to take this risk, try to do so.
Let’s consciously seek out people who make us feel safe and who we can have intimate discussions with. Let’s make more time for them. Because they deserve more of us.
Please comment and share what intimacy in relationships looks and feels like in your life.
We all deserve the support and love sincere, healthy relationships can provide; we are all so much more than enough.
Thank you as always for reading.
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Joan Morabito Senio is the founder of Kindness-Compassion-and-Coaching.com. Joan’s career includes leadership positions serving both public and private sector health care organizations. Joan’s focus is now on providing trauma-informed, compassionate coaching resources to support both individuals and coaching practitioners. She is a certified Neuroscience Coach, member of the International Organization of Life Coaches, serves as a thought-leader for KuelLife.com and is also a regular contributor to PsychReg and Sixty and Me. You can read more about Joan here: Joan Senio.
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